Have you ever watched Millionaire Matchmaker? It's about Patti Stranger, a matchmaker who has continued with the family tradition by finding partners for millionaires. I don't agree with many of the things Ms. Stranger says, for instance, she insists men prefer straight hair. She also exhibits many unfeminine traits such as swearing and being argumentative so I have to make that disclaimer first.
Well she made a documentary called Married in a Year and claims that her advice can help you to land your dream man in only 365 days! There is some good advice in the film about how to dress, not giving up sex before three months or monogamy, and how to act like a lady. Actually a lot of the things were similar to what I've read in The Rules and He's Just Not That Into You. There was also the advice to date three men at once until one wants to become monogamous. I have never had that happen and I don't know if it ever will. I am choosy with the men I date so it would be hard to find three guys at the same time who I would even want to date.
I think that this film is worth watching to see what other women are advised to do when dating and what their standards are. No EBWs, your standards are not too high! It doesn't make sense to aim for mediocrity in any aspect of you life and other women don't choose to do that so why should you? I strongly recommend this video because it will really give you something to think about even if you don't agree with the advice.
This blog is about self-improvement not criticizing Black women's behaviour. It's about improving myself so that I become a better woman. It's about becoming the highest-quality woman, despite my upbringing or lineage, and attracting good, successful men of any race.
I love Patti Stanger - I've watched most of her episodes and I have her book! However, Patti Stanger's advice must be taken with a grain of salt, especially with respect to a woman's looks.
ReplyDeleteAs for dating three men at once - WHY NOT?!?! I agree, you must be choosy with men you enter relationships with, but dating nobodies is great practice for when you meet the men who are truly worth it!
Have you seen Cindy Lu's Four Man Plan? It's on Youtube! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q2bhnkGj25U&feature=related)
Hi Black Chick in the City :)
ReplyDeleteOh it's fine to date more than one man at a time before becoming monogamous. I've just never been interested in more than one guy at a time. I've talked about it with friends before and I just can't bring myself to go on a date with someone I'm not interested in. I feel like I'd rather be doing something else. But like I said, I've never been in that situation before so we'll see how I react if it comes up.
Oh, thanks for the link and the visit :)
Well I watched the 4 Man Plan video. It's pretty different. Maybe ill give it a try :)
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