tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post8897909964110922360..comments2024-01-29T01:52:28.701-05:00Comments on The New Elegant Black Woman: Being Soft is Pretty Sweet :)Elegancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06086459974594918860noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-82220450438320791032013-02-16T10:02:55.433-05:002013-02-16T10:02:55.433-05:00I actually experienced this myself. I remember whe...I actually experienced this myself. I remember when I was in a group of people...a few of the guys were loud and using bad language. I looked up, wide-eyed and turning red. One of the guys caught my expression and said, "Oh sorry." And stopped cussing around me. The other girls they continued to. It got to where if I gave them a stern look they'd stop. No cussing, no trying to get in my face. None of that. The thing is, I didn't even KNOW these guys!<br />Another example was when I was in gym playing volleyball. One girl got hit in the stomach and no one came to see if she was okay. I did. Then I got hit and they came to make sure I was okay. I was pretty surprised. So yeah, being sweet and soft does get you places ^^ Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-80360173865957278822013-02-13T23:09:44.173-05:002013-02-13T23:09:44.173-05:00"If everyone thinks you are strong, you can t..."If everyone thinks you are strong, you can take everything,and you actually like drama and arguing".<br /><br />I totally agree with this observation. Alot of people fail to realize we attract what we project out in world whether it is positive or negative energy.<br />It is our responsibility to always strive to channel postive thoughts and actions in order to get positive outlooks and responses.ms. loyalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07627948023459599957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-16990126328777821082013-02-07T12:59:57.194-05:002013-02-07T12:59:57.194-05:00I really like this one because it took me back to ...I really like this one because it took me back to a place where I thought being strong was a good thing. This was a reminder for me to not go back to that place.<br />It's such a joy to be treated with respect and love.<br /><br />Raising my standards for the way people, especially men, treat me was the best decision I've ever made. Even black men treat me better and that's a big deal since they were the ones that treated me the worse when I was trying to be strong. The Hypergamous Mindsethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04713795660288361167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-23502790498365133542013-02-06T22:37:13.823-05:002013-02-06T22:37:13.823-05:00One thing that may be hard to overcome is Judgemen...One thing that may be hard to overcome is Judgement. At least for me, judgement, has been a challenged. Knowing that everyone else will remain the same (i.e. Harsh, bitter, impolite) is hard when you have high standards. It makes me disaapointed. If you have any tips...<br /><br />LeeLEEnoreply@blogger.com