tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post7086982095838562686..comments2024-01-29T01:52:28.701-05:00Comments on The New Elegant Black Woman: Masculine Things I am RejectingElegancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06086459974594918860noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-52779094580234977222012-02-25T10:27:44.546-05:002012-02-25T10:27:44.546-05:00There are men out there who curse and I personally...There are men out there who curse and I personally don't really care for them. I just find it to be an incredibly turn-off. :( Teenage boys, I can be a bit more tolerant of because they're immature but I think that when men are old enough to be called "men", they should take responsibility.<br /><br />A man doesn't have to curse to become masculine. I've always loved gentlemen. ;) <br /><br />On the note of aggressive sports, when I was in high school I played women's lacrosse and women's field hockey (and also tennis, but that's not as aggressive). Those were both very aggressive sports. However, men's lacrosse was infinitely more aggressive than women's lacrosse (you could actually hit your opponent with your stick). Although lacrosse and field hockey were aggressive sports for women, the uniform was kept feminine. We worse skirts (they were literally kilts), feminine fitted polo shirts, and before every game, one of the girls would be assigned to bring cute ribbons, and we would tie adorable pink ribbons in our hair (a different pattern every time, as we would take turns bringing them).<br /><br />Some feminists wanted us to dress in a more masculine manner, but thankfully, my traditional high school said "No!" I'm really glad because field hockey and lacrosse are aggressive sports and I enjoyed having that blatant feminine aspect to it. <br /><br />The pink bows in our hair (wrapped around our perky ponytails) and our "skirts" and our cute fitted polo shirts reminded us, as we were sweating on our opponents and pushing them aside, that we WERE feminine women playing a sport that was for only women (I say "only women" because the men's version of lacrosse was much more violent, which is why they worse padding). <br /><br />After every game, it was a tradition for us to change out of our sweaty gear, take showers in the gym, and change into heels, sundresses, and pearls that we had brought with us. Why? So that we could sit and have tea, lemonade, and scones with the opponents, socialize with them, and praise them on their grace with a lacrosse stick (they would change into their sundresses as well). Once again, embracing our femininity despite the aggressiveness of the sport. And this is ANOTHER tradition that the feminists tried to take from us.<br /><br />They wanted to take away all of the aspects of a very aggressive sport that preserved some sense of femininity. They wanted to make it a purely masculine sport. Purely aggressive. No skirts, no pink ribbons, no cute fitted polo shirts, and no tradition of changing into sundresses, sitting on the lawn, and socializing with the opponents so that we could praise them and their skill. <br /><br />In such aggressive sports for women, having these feminine aspects is important so that when we're pushing an opponent aside and throwing a hard ball 30 miles per hour at a goalie we don't forget that we ARE ladies off the field (and on the field as well with our sportsmanship, our consideration for the injuries of the opponent, and stopping to help out opponents who may have fallen to the ground).Nina Pundarik-Dossinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02138869928657336594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-39644913345058431282012-02-13T21:03:45.696-05:002012-02-13T21:03:45.696-05:00I think this is a really great article. I like you...I think this is a really great article. I like your resolve and insight. God bless!Awake. Aware. Alive.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13994023784566586836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-74794872284439794152012-02-07T10:22:02.907-05:002012-02-07T10:22:02.907-05:00Miss Elegance:
I absolutely understand your senti...Miss Elegance:<br /><br />I absolutely understand your sentiment. Your blog post is titled, "Masculine Ideas That "I" Am Rejecting." Your points were specific to you and everyone is different. As Shakespeare said, "To thine own self be true." I truly appreciate you taking the time to share your personal femininity evolution with all of us. <br /><br />Also, thanks for your comments regarding my "pen" name. It has personal meaning to me.<br /><br />Take care.<br /><br />Lady Arabella VictoriaLady Arabella victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10941988783872036690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-33095148860969718002012-02-06T21:38:51.893-05:002012-02-06T21:38:51.893-05:00Welcome to my blog Lady Arabella victoria (LOVE th...Welcome to my blog Lady Arabella victoria (LOVE the name) and anonymous.<br /><br />Thanks for your comments. This post was about things that I have never liked or have grown to dislike. Some of these are traditionally masculine things. In the past I felt pressured to like these things. <br /><br />For example, I felt pressure to like things like aggressive sports just so that guys would like me. I don't like sports, especially the ones I mentioned. Pretending to like them or watching them with a boyfriend would be being fake for me, and I want to be my true self. If my boyfriend likes me better when I pretend to like what he likes then that's a major problem. <br /><br />There are masculine things that I like such as horror, action, and sci-fi films so I could bond with a guy about that. It's fine if you like sports, but I just don't. <br /><br />I know this blog is about trying to do things differently and changing. There are some things that I'm willing to change (e.g., the way I dress, or my point of view), but not my interests. I hope you understand what I'm saying. I'm accepting that I don't like these things when before I felt some sort of guilt or pressure. <br /><br />I don't think I could even date a guy who likes country music because I can't stand it!Elegancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06086459974594918860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-53396898131868688002012-02-06T20:27:42.222-05:002012-02-06T20:27:42.222-05:00As a feminine woman, it is possible to watch sport...As a feminine woman, it is possible to watch sports and keep your femininity. Sports are not just for men to watch and there is such a thing as being a girly girl and enjoying sports, so i do not agree with your first bullet. In fact, men LOVE it when you enjoy watching sports. I have been told by many that I am the "Perfect" woman because I can watch sports in my heels with the guys but still be a lady.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-30207016311534155522012-02-04T19:05:40.609-05:002012-02-04T19:05:40.609-05:00I would like to add the caveat that in regards to ...I would like to add the caveat that in regards to number one, I WILL and DO watch sporting events if I've been invited to do so as part of a date or the sharing of quality time together. I have found that men like it when their wives/girlfriends watch sports with them. In fact, my former husband and I enjoyed spending time together cuddling on the couch while he watched, "the game." He appreciated the fact that I was willing to share his interests and I loved being in his company. <br /><br />Last year a gentleman I was dating invited me to attend a boxing "smoker" with him. I had a good time at the match even though I had no idea what was going on. However, he was glad I was there with him and it enhanced our overall evening. He appreciated the fact that I did things he liked to do and he reciprocated by attending activities that interested me. It's all about being willing to extend oneself.Lady Arabella victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10941988783872036690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-18251947524082875482012-02-03T22:55:45.204-05:002012-02-03T22:55:45.204-05:00I agree with your commentary whole-heartedly. Than...I agree with your commentary whole-heartedly. Thanks for sharing your views regarding femininity.Lady Arabella victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10941988783872036690noreply@blogger.com