tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post5252030753296130053..comments2024-01-29T01:52:28.701-05:00Comments on The New Elegant Black Woman: Response to The Tyranny of Stylishness Part IIElegancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06086459974594918860noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-89820866960520019132012-08-28T03:36:25.752-04:002012-08-28T03:36:25.752-04:00Hi CloudSurfer'97, thanks for your visit :)Yes...Hi CloudSurfer'97, thanks for your visit :)Yes it's true that being gentle/sensitive/meek can bother some people but so can the opposite behaviours and it's better to be yourself (your best self) than always pretending to be something you are not. Although I am learning new things on this blog it fits with who I am right now. <br /><br />Well I'm a lot older than you and when I was growing up it was also the trend that women dressed in jeans most of the time, runners and baggy clothes. When I was in high school grunge was popular so some girls did wear flower dresses, baby doll dresses and I did have some flower shirts. <br /><br />Well I think that being a teen is really hard because there is more pressure to act in certain ways. When you graduate you will have more freedom to look the way you want. So to be honest, my advice is to show your femininity but try to use ways that the other girls do, especially the one's who are well liked. The last thing you need is to do something that will get you picked on. So you want to be comfortable, wear things you like that are feminine, but things that the other kids will find acceptable (and is also acceptable to your parents). <br /><br />Some might say that you should just wear whatever you want and not care about what others wear or think. But as someone who has been teased before, it's best to avoid doing things that could get you teased or rejected. As long as we are just talking clothing it's fine to wear what others do because that's harmless. But if you show too much skin it can be distracting to guys and get you unwanted attention. <br /><br />Wow I'm surprised that most girls ask boys out! Unfortunately I wasn't asked out in high school so I didn't get date until the formal (prom). Maybe I should have asked someone out...But I would just say talk to your parents about dating and don't let guys push you too far because you won't feel good about it after.<br /><br />I hope this helps some :)Elegancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06086459974594918860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-35535088806137567682012-08-26T16:01:00.862-04:002012-08-26T16:01:00.862-04:00Nowadays being respectable, elegant and feminine (...Nowadays being respectable, elegant and feminine (unless you go to a private school, i don't go to one anymore) make you stand out, and makes you more of an outsider. I go to an international school (boarding school) and I'm in 10th grade, I came in 9th grade when some girl bullied me into a corner and cut my hair, the same girl who always told me I had long hair ... I'm over that, I'm just giving an example. That matter is done with, and I'll just have to move on... :O) and even being naturally gentle/sensitive/meek as a woman can cause troubles with other women. Most girls ask boys out nowadays (so you try to cover your gentleness up, by being more quiet and seem kind of mysterious--even though everyone else--including guys--describes you as gentle woman (how did they know?!)lol) Can't hide who I am, eh? :)<br /><br />*P.S I'm Canadian and my parents are nigerian--they took me to Nigeria for 3 years to see the culture. I decided to start going to an international school a year after I came back because that's what I went to there.<br /><br />What do you think about this?<br />Any advice on femininity for teens?<br />Dress and behavior etc?<br />How was your teens and things I should watch out for you? <br /><br />THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS SITE! <33SSShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09890299173156090233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-59036892044748394852012-07-31T14:15:21.912-04:002012-07-31T14:15:21.912-04:00Hi Sisterlocgirl :)
Yes those are excellent point...Hi Sisterlocgirl :)<br /><br />Yes those are excellent points and I firmly believe in them too. Since it is almost impossible to be a free thinker (unless you have never had contact with other human beings) then you have been influenced and you are probably conforming to something. So why not conform to people you can influence you positively and help you to become and stay happy. Those are the people I conform to in terms of behaviour, how I present myself, goals, and fashion. I have my own ideas about things but the way I look doesn't directly affect my thoughts and I can have different opinions from people nearest to me. Definitely choose carefully considering who we follow is great advice!Elegancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06086459974594918860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-2532498412817722312012-07-28T13:46:46.737-04:002012-07-28T13:46:46.737-04:00Sisterlocgirl took the words out my mouth! Totally...Sisterlocgirl took the words out my mouth! Totally agree.Rockyhttp://www.blackandfeminine.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-56078946099532451662012-07-27T15:11:33.760-04:002012-07-27T15:11:33.760-04:00Excellent post. My response to most people about f...Excellent post. My response to most people about following the crowd has been carefully choose the crowd you DO follow. Are they successful? High achievers? Friendly? Good people to be around? People who lift you up and not tear you down? Moving forwards not backwards? Then that's the crowd you follow. My choices to follow the " not acting black" crowd have gotten me where I am today ( a successful feminine black lady physician subspecialist ) and I wouldn't change my choices for anything.Sisterlocgirlnoreply@blogger.com