tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post6324516902983727918..comments2024-01-29T01:52:28.701-05:00Comments on The New Elegant Black Woman: Updates: I Don't Want to Get Married AnymoreElegancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06086459974594918860noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-36762336224765513922020-03-29T21:40:24.710-04:002020-03-29T21:40:24.710-04:00Beyonce, this book has helped me a lot with my sel...Beyonce, this book has helped me a lot with my self esteem , hope it helps. https://divineworkspublishing.com/page/rachel-misere/Lea lyonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07177840110801362564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-34620268808168496552020-03-16T01:38:30.251-04:002020-03-16T01:38:30.251-04:00Damn I thought you abandoned this blog. Please kee...Damn I thought you abandoned this blog. Please keep writing. I’d love to know your opinion on black girls self esteem Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-63075622669104782572020-03-13T09:48:40.398-04:002020-03-13T09:48:40.398-04:00So many marriage minded black women are changing t...So many marriage minded black women are changing their stance on this. I have long reconciled with the idea that it may be more realistic for me to partner with a non black male instead of marrying one and birthing children. <br /><br />Many men struggle these days to connect/be totally exclusive with just one woman, and at this point, in my mid 30's I'm more jaded about a lot of men. It just isn't worth the risk to my health and emotion well-being to continue looking, or at least for now take a break and not worry about any romantic outcome.<br /><br />I was a devout reader of this blog and some tips and advice did yield satisfying results, but the reality is, femininity doesn't compel men to behave well and to do so with you over a period of time. He has to WANT to behave in a way that is conducive for a long-term commitment whether you cultivate feminine mystic or not. I have dated men that turned around and got with "masculine" "toxic" women and give them the world. And, I'm not exaggerating. <br /><br />It's ok to not settle and be open.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-8184355004120179232020-03-07T22:49:39.983-05:002020-03-07T22:49:39.983-05:00Regarding #4, men don't protect women at all. ...Regarding #4, men don't protect women at all. I've seen stuff happen on public transportation and they will either watch it happen or try hard not to make eye contact with the victim so they don't have to step in. I've seen homeless men spit on women, block their way unless they give them money, drunk men harass and physically assault women and only women speak up and help each other! Men just watch or try to ignore! Nowadays, they don't want to put themselves in harms way to protect a woman, they don't think it's worth it and that because of feminism, we can protect ourselves. They use this same "feminist" reason as a way to not be providers and go 50/50 on everything. I recently read a reddit post about a woman who married a rich guy with a great job and had a child with him. He made her go 50/50 even though he made 3x as much on top of his trust fund. And she was the primary caregiver for the child as well as cooking, cleaning, working and stuff SMH There's no incentive to date romantically at all. I have taken a vow of lifelong celibacy (I am religious) so I feel like I'm looking in from the outside when it comes to discussions like this. Many women have given up on men completely and just look forward to having children and professional careers. It's kind of sad, really.Sateonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14767524762581910447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-87830901886436663502020-03-07T14:14:27.368-05:002020-03-07T14:14:27.368-05:00Great post. I agree that it is hard to find a good...Great post. I agree that it is hard to find a good man out here. I think I will just focus on my career and educational endeavors until someone decent comes along. Coco Sistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12458919026799559863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-38584176807987707942020-03-07T12:12:36.956-05:002020-03-07T12:12:36.956-05:00I agree with everything you wrote and I feel exact...I agree with everything you wrote and I feel exactly the same way. I don't hate men, but I don't feel that I need to be married to one. It's truly freeing to realize this, and I'm glad I realized this earlier in my life. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17248336003983214189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-68439480401832758472020-03-07T10:46:49.897-05:002020-03-07T10:46:49.897-05:00Thank you for your honesty. I feel the same way. I...Thank you for your honesty. I feel the same way. I've noticed most men are not even worthy. I still desire male energy but, men these days have a lot of feminine energy which is a turn-off for me. Vjsim1https://www.blogger.com/profile/08185221803137689291noreply@blogger.com