tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post3517003111636439076..comments2024-01-29T01:52:28.701-05:00Comments on The New Elegant Black Woman: Mistaking Coping Mechanisms for Normal BehaviourElegancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06086459974594918860noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-76349629372849918512012-08-23T13:10:02.060-04:002012-08-23T13:10:02.060-04:00Another great post, Elegance! :)
Many of these be...Another great post, Elegance! :)<br /><br />Many of these behaviors or habits are so prevalent today, rarely do people put the origins in perspective. <br /><br />I also think another common coping mechanism for so many BW is the excessive need to care for damaged people, which I like to call "healing projects." I think so many of us do it to avoid fixing our own problems that prevent us from living our best life. <br /><br />There is nothing wrong with helping others, but some of us are doing it excessively. <br /><br />I almost got caught into that vortex, but thankfully I wised up.GoneInternationalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-48908514900515240832012-08-22T10:05:58.184-04:002012-08-22T10:05:58.184-04:00I LOVE the attention an I'm not afraid to admi...I LOVE the attention an I'm not afraid to admit it! If you just ask guys what they prefer they'll tell you! A guy I spoke to said he liked long hair and nails, but he also likes a girl that looks pretty all natural. Which then got to me a little. But when I'm not wearing makeup I can still be pretty. I have had days where when I wake up I look like I just got beaten up! But I noticed girly and pretty pajamas do the trick. Of course you'd look like you just got beat up when yo wake up mummy walking in a huge toothpaste stained t-shirt and your dads sweat pants! lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-42791035878120601162012-08-21T15:45:38.256-04:002012-08-21T15:45:38.256-04:00Hi Pearl Rose,
Thanks for your comment! I haven&#...Hi Pearl Rose,<br /><br />Thanks for your comment! I haven't done the first three. I wore excessive make-up in high school before I knew what I was doing (I followed the instructions in a magazine lol). I did hair straightening before but went natural 4 years ago. Never did the mean mugging but I also don't take photos as much as other women...maybe they are bored sometimes? <br />The feminine clothing I started because it fit better but the compliments and attention made me want to do it more! Plus I have yet to meet a guy who didn't actually get excited when I told him I prefer to only wear dresses and skirts...it's because men love the way we look in these clothes!<br /><br />Yes 11 is controversial for sure :)Elegancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06086459974594918860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-54450584617947165962012-08-20T20:42:42.570-04:002012-08-20T20:42:42.570-04:00This was a really good post it made me think about...This was a really good post it made me think about the things people do and why they do it.<br /> <br />Most of the things on the list are very risky! <br />1, 2, 3, 4 (Not risky but makes you look very crazy!), 5 (Extremely risky I don't even want to do drugs or drink!), 6 (I want to work hard AND love what I do, I don't want to be exhausting myself like that, stress!), 7 (Never done that before, but I feel if you are buying useless things that you can't use long-term (and give it away or sell when you're done, it's useless), 8 (Never done that for nobodies approval.. never had a job or people who were worthy of me changing myself, but I do wear straight hair sometimes),9 (I am guilty of doing these faces for cameras because I thought it looked cool, I read your post the other day about that, it opened my eyes so much! Not doing that EVER again)10 (I dress like that because I honestly feel so pretty I guess its something I would have to talk about with another woman that dresses feminine but it really does make me feel better about myself and the attention is an added plus) <br /><br />11 (I have controversial thoughts on feminism, so I'll just leave that one alone :))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com