tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post2558822808973889710..comments2024-01-29T01:52:28.701-05:00Comments on The New Elegant Black Woman: Touching Black Women's HairElegancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06086459974594918860noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-25212803873167233912013-06-18T15:37:39.538-04:002013-06-18T15:37:39.538-04:00My lover can touch my hair, but random people cann...My lover can touch my hair, but random people cannot. It becomes annoying when 2-5 people a day touch my hair. People don't ask, they just do it. And yes, people of other ethnicities do touch other other women's hair, but you see, blk hair has a quality about it where it stays where you put it. If I spend 20 min picking my hair into a perfect afro, when you touch it, it dents. If someone has just done their hair, you touching it can ruin their hairstyle. Sorry, only my lover can touch my hair. Not everyone thinks it feels good to be petted & touched. I am one of those people.The Peacock Bride aka Divinewordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16441490698454205465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-19360091777422742902012-10-03T14:19:25.867-04:002012-10-03T14:19:25.867-04:00I don't like being touched in general (am work...I don't like being touched in general (am working on that, lol)...but I don't mind having my hair touched. Just ask first :)onthewaydownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-83889637586328465502012-10-01T13:00:25.558-04:002012-10-01T13:00:25.558-04:00I actually think it's pretty cute when guys wa...I actually think it's pretty cute when guys want to play in my hair. I remember a few years ago when I was 16, we lived near this store owned by a Middle Eastern man (I hope that's the appropriate term, I don't want to be offensive), and I'd just started going natural but he and his employees (other Mid Eastern men) openly admired my hair. The one guy complimented me often, especially on my smile or my lips, but my mom wasn't happy to hear he'd wanted to touch my hair one day. She had a huge fit and reacted like he was after sex or like he was getting off on touching it, but I didn't think it was strange at all. I thought he was just curious, especially since I was the only one in our area at the time wearing my curls out.<br /><br />Nowadays, I get girls and guys asking about my hair, asking if it's weave or not and wanting to touch it. Whenever I wear my hair pressed, people are actually curious because they don't get how my hair goes from shoulder-length to pressed half down my back and it's not fake! The only negative responses I get are from girls with serious hair damage or black guys who refuse to believe my hair's not weave and will even tell other people that what I mean is "it's mine because I bought it". O_o<br /><br />The whole hair issue is stupid, and the sooner it's dropped, the better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-788247236906826630.post-47952481927603945142012-10-01T11:14:03.011-04:002012-10-01T11:14:03.011-04:00The first video was hilarious lol. I didn't li...The first video was hilarious lol. I didn't like that good hair documentary because the last thing black women need is more people having negative ideals about our hair.<br /><br />I never understood the not touching a black woman's hair thing. I didn't know it was an issue until I saw Good Hair. And that scene in the second video I did not like at all. Here we have black men complaining about not being able to touch a woman's hair. What also annoys me is the fact that these AA men are always comparing their women to white women or any other non black women. <br /><br />I wear clip in extensions all the time but that doesn't mean no one can touch it. My non black girl friends wear extensions too (hair extensions are big in Latin America) but it's not a big deal. I remember seeing a white girl in the supermarket wearing a weave because she had all her tracks showing. She had actually parted her hair down the middle so all the tracks were showing in the back, otherwise I would never have known it was a weave.<br /><br />But I bet she won't mind it being touch. Most men are aware that women wear things like fake hair, fake eyelashes and fake nails so I don't think they would be surprised if they find out it's fake. Here in Latin America women get plastic surgery all the time. But they don't tell their men don't touch their fake butt or fake breast. <br /><br />I don't know where I'm going with all this but I think the whole not touching a black woman's hair is silly. We need to let the people that love us touch our hair and stop going to those hairdressers who do not have a clue when it comes to taking care of black hair. As for strangers, I'm not at all comfortable with them touching me unless it's like a greeting where we shake hands or something like that.The Hypergamous Mindsethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04713795660288361167noreply@blogger.com